I don't get how the time flies that quickly. We've been here since the beginning of October, and it has felt like ages in one respect, and milliseconds in another. And it's frightening that Christmas is around the corner and though it's my favourite holiday, I have a distinct feeling that I won't be able to appreciate it until about April. It's been a retarded whirlwind of sorts.
The mister and I haven't seen much of each other, mostly because of us working, and a lot of that work involves the mister settling into his job and spending time with people in the business that he wants to get to know better. Granted, there's a balance that we have to remind each other of, the balance of working/networking/making sure the homelife is taken care of. It's a hard balance for people with high-powered jobs like the both of us, but there's no other way to do it, otherwise, my opinion is: if you don't want to figure out the balance, then don't bother getting married.
I met someone the other day that said "Marriage is amazing but it's tough and you have to make sure that as long as the two people in the relationship are ok, then everything else will be ok. Lots of compromise, lots of patience and understanding, but above all, both people have to realize that it is a fundamental lifestyle change. There are things you have to stop doing and start doing once you get married."
Now, as boring as that sounds and I'm sure people out there are saying "What?! I don't want to change, I am who I am, and that's too bad." I totally get that, and marriage doesn't mean changing the person you're with into something unrecognisable, but you have to come to the realization that it's not just one person anymore. You are now accountable to not only yourself, but another person in the decisions you make and the consequences that result. Some habits are hard to break but have to be broken, and there are some characteristics that you have to retain to make someone the colorful and fascinating person that they are. It's all a pretty hilarious, fun and sometimes fragile balance to maintain. And you have to remind yourself 50,000 times not only how to be YOU but also be the new YOU that is a part of WE. It's a constant education.
On the other hand, all of what I've stated, plus the trillion more fun stuff and hard stuff is what makes marriage so freaking cool. You have this person next to you that calls you out on your behaviour but that supports you no matter what. Your biggest cheerleader, the one you trust your heart, soul and life with. The one you fancy. The one you inspire. The one that challenges you. The only one in the world that even in a room chock-full of gorgeous and witty people, will look at you like you'll always be sexier than any of them. The only one that even after a nasty row, will still really like you and want to hold your hand.
Maybe I'm a bit of a romantic (yeah, okay, I'm a BIG romantic), but it's those romantic feelings that get you through the tough stuff and remind you why the hell you decided to marry this crazy person in the first place, and that you cannot imagine life without them.
And that the same crazy person is waiting to hug you at the end of a long day.
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